Couples, Communication, & Relationship Support

Learning to talk so you can truly hear each other again

I welcome all couples and relationship constellations: heterosexual, LGBTQ+, monogamous, polyamorous, married, dating, or exploring new dynamics.

What matters most is that both partners (or all involved) want to work toward understanding and change.

Most couples do not come to therapy because they stopped loving each other. They come because they feel unheard, misunderstood, or disconnected, often after months or years of small, unresolved moments building up.

Good communication is not just about talking more. It is about feeling safe enough to be honest, curious, and vulnerable again.

Relationships succeed when everyone feels safe, heard, and respected. That’s the environment I create in every session.

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When to seek couples therapy

Couples often reach out when they notice one or more of the following:

• Frequent arguments that go nowhere

• Distance, resentment, or emotional shutdown

• Sexual disconnection or mismatched desire

• Difficulty rebuilding trust after betrayal

• Feeling like roommates instead of partners

• Patterns of avoidance or criticism

• Unresolved tension around money, parenting, or work stress

• One partner feeling unseen or unheard

Therapy provides a structured space to slow things down, understand the patterns that keep you stuck, and learn new ways of interacting that actually work.

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What happens in couples therapy

1. Understanding the pattern

   We start by identifying what happens between you: the recurring cycle that pulls you apart. Instead of deciding who is “right,” we explore what each person is protecting or afraid of losing.

2. Building emotional safety

   You will learn how to express needs and frustrations in ways that invite connection instead of defense. Safety allows honesty to surface, which is the foundation for real change.

3. Relearning communication

   Couples often believe they have a “communication problem,” but it is usually a connection problem. We work on slowing down reactions, staying present, and listening for meaning instead of mistakes.

4. Rebuilding trust and intimacy

   Trust does not return all at once. It grows from consistent, small moments of truth and repair. We work on creating these moments intentionally.

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My approach

I integrate Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and elements of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples see the patterns that keep them stuck and learn new ways to respond.

I use an emotionally focused and values-based approach to help partners reconnect with empathy and clarity. This means understanding the emotional needs underneath conflict, not just solving surface arguments.

We’ll focus on understanding your emotional cycles instead of assigning blame, and practice new communication tools you can use outside of sessions.

I also bring experience as a sex therapist, which allows me to address intimacy concerns openly and without judgment. This includes working through issues such as low desire, performance anxiety, sexual avoidance, or differing definitions of intimacy.

As progress builds, sessions often shift from weekly to bi-weekly or monthly check-ins. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s connection, awareness, and teamwork.