Kink / BDSM / Sexual Identity Exploration
KINK AFFIRMING THERAPY
Curiosity, consent, and confidence: understanding what turns you on and why
Exploring sexuality can be exciting, confusing, or both. Maybe you’re curious about kink, power exchange, or fantasy but unsure how to approach it.
Maybe you’ve already explored and are wrestling with judgment; your own or someone else’s.
Or you might simply want a space to understand your sexual identity without labels, fear, or shame.
Therapy offers that space: grounded, affirming, and focused on safety, communication, and authentic choice.
You don’t need to hide or apologize for who you are.
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Understanding Kink, BDSM, and Sexual Identity
Kink and BDSM are diverse, consensual practices built on trust and communication — not pathology.
Yet many people grow up hearing that sexual curiosity is “weird” or “wrong.”
When those messages stick, they can cause confusion, anxiety, or guilt about desires that are completely healthy when practiced safely.
You may recognize yourself in one or more of these:
Curiosity about kink or power dynamics but fear of judgment
Difficulty finding partners who understand or respect your boundaries
Shame or secrecy around desires
Confusion between fantasy and reality
Feeling disconnected from identity, gender, or orientation
Wanting to integrate kink or non-traditional desires into a loving relationship
Therapy helps you move from self-doubt to self-understanding…and to navigate these experiences safely and confidently.
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How Therapy Helps
Exploring sexuality doesn’t require a diagnosis, it requires a safe conversation. Together, we’ll work to:
Clarify your desires and boundaries. Understand what feels exciting, what feels safe, and where you want to grow.
Reduce shame and anxiety. Learn how cultural and family messages shaped your views on pleasure and control.
Enhance communication. Develop skills to talk with partners about consent, aftercare, and emotional connection.
Integrate identity and values. Align exploration with authenticity, not expectation.
Address relational patterns. Understand how power dynamics, trust, and vulnerability show up beyond the bedroom.
The goal isn’t to label you; it’s to help you feel comfortable and empowered in your sexuality.
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Inclusive and Affirming Care
I work with individuals and couples of all genders, orientations, and relationship structures, including LGBTQ+, kink, and polyamorous communities.
My role is to support exploration without assumption, pathologizing, or pressure.
Whether you’re just beginning to ask questions or are experienced in kink and want to address emotional or relational challenges, therapy provides a collaborative, informed space for growth.
What to Expect
Free 15-minute consultation: We’ll discuss your goals, boundaries, and comfort level.
First session: Begin exploring your sexual narrative, values, and experiences.
Ongoing sessions: Build skills in self-awareness, communication, and confidence as you explore identity and intimacy.
You set the pace. Nothing is off-limits, and nothing moves faster than you choose.
My Approach
I combine Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) with sex-therapy and trauma-informed practices to help clients navigate desire with awareness and intention.
As both a Licensed Psychologist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist, I understand how psychology, physiology, and culture shape sexual expression.
Sessions focus on connection, consent, and clarity. To help you live your sexuality as part of your whole self.
Ready to Begin?
You deserve to understand and express your sexuality without fear or shame. If you’re ready to explore in a space that honors your boundaries, values, and curiosity; I’m here to help.
Let’s talk about what you’d like to understand, explore, or change.
KINK AFFIRMING THERAPY
Relationships are dynamic, and this evolution often encourages partners to delve into new sexual fantasies. Embracing these ideas necessitates a foundation of openness and vulnerability. I can assist in initiating these conversations, clarifying misunderstandings, and helping you articulate your feelings effectively. A partner's comfort typically relies on addressing questions, alleviating fears, and establishing a thoughtful plan with boundaries.
Discussing sex can be daunting, but my objective is to foster an inclusive environment that acknowledges the rich tapestry of fantasies, sexual expressions, and behaviors. I strive to understand rather than judge, offering non-shaming sex education for individuals or couples exploring alternative lifestyles.
I support the sexual experiences that resonate with you, whether you identify with the kink community, have specific fetishes, enjoy dominance and submission, engage in role-playing, or harbor unspoken desires. Topics of interest include cultural expectations, alternative lifestyle anxieties, safe coming out, kink and fetishes, dismantling shame, and navigating ethical non-monogamy. While external factors may contribute to feelings of invisibility, I am committed to providing a safe, non-judgmental space for our discussions on identity, sexuality, and lifestyle choices.
ETHICAL NONMONOGAMY
In the realm of relationship dynamics, couples have a myriad of options to consider. The exploration of non-monogamy can stem from various motivations, and the journey to incorporate this lifestyle is unique for each couple. Many find themselves intrigued by alternatives to traditional monogamy, whether for a temporary period or as a permanent arrangement. The essential aspect is to engage in discussions that respect the desires and boundaries of everyone involved.
Ethical non-monogamy embodies a framework of values that allows partners to maintain their commitment to one another while embracing connections outside their primary relationship. However, it demands a high level of emotional intelligence, trust, and effective communication. Challenges such as jealousy and insecurity may arise, necessitating a thoughtful approach to relationship dynamics. Ultimately, the foundation of ethical non-monogamy lies in transparent communication, mutual consent, and honesty, enabling individuals to pursue authentic and fulfilling connections while honoring their partners' needs.
Supporting healthy dialogues about these options, establishing shared boundaries, and addressing any emotional complexities that surface can facilitate a positive exploration of new relational dimensions.
Relationships are dynamic, and this evolution often encourages partners to delve into new sexual fantasies. Embracing these ideas necessitates a foundation of openness and vulnerability. I can assist in initiating these conversations, clarifying misunderstandings, and helping you articulate your feelings effectively. A partner's comfort typically relies on addressing questions, alleviating fears, and establishing a thoughtful plan with boundaries. Discussing sex can be daunting, but my objective is to foster an inclusive environment that acknowledges the rich tapestry of fantasies, sexual expressions, and behaviors. I strive to understand rather than judge, offering non-shaming sex education for individuals or couples exploring alternative lifestyles. I support the sexual experiences that resonate with you, whether you identify with the kink community, have specific fetishes, enjoy dominance and submission, engage in role-playing, or harbor unspoken desires. Topics of interest include cultural expectations, alternative lifestyle anxieties, safe coming out, kink and fetishes, dismantling shame, and navigating ethical non-monogamy. While external factors may contribute to feelings of invisibility, I am committed to providing a safe, non-judgmental space for our discussions on identity, sexuality, and lifestyle choices.
