Many people have a hard time to talk about sex in a vulnerable, authentic and direct manner. Even though our culture is overloaded with sexualized marketing campaigns, expectations and sociatical pressure, rarely do people learn how to discuss sex in the context of attachment and intimacy. We learned about sex in relations to sexaully tranmittable diesases, in an aim to promote abstenism. Not talking about one’s sexual desires, needs, feeling, prevents people from having intimate, healthy and exciting sex lives.
My areas of specialty include issues surrounding sexuality and gender, sexual dysfunction, the LGBTQIA+ population and those seeking alternative sexual lisfestyles including KINK and BDSM. I aim to meet my clients where they are, holding space for exploration of self, through empowerment for growth, autonomy, sexual exploration, and consent.
Whether you are single or in a relationship, there is a lot to learn about your sexuality.
Sexuality is central part of our identity and van be a crucial element of our intimate relationships. In therapy through meaningful dialogue, together we will explore the factors that contribute to the lack of pleasure, desire, and joy in your sexual encounters.
Common sexual issues:
Performance Anxiety
Erectile Dysfunction
Painful Sex
Low Desire
When it comes to relationship styles, there are many different choices available and disucssed in our culture lately. Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is a set of values that couples can choose to have in their partnerships that involve being partnered and committed to one another, but without being monogamous.
In ethical or consensual non-monogamy you and your partner have the agreements, trust, conflict resolution skills needed to navigate this lifestyle inside of your committed relationship.
Types of Ethical Non-Monogamy:
Polyamory
Open relationships
Swinging
Anarchy
Blending
One of the most important components of therapy is feeling safe to share without judgment.
Sex positive therapist describes a person who creates space for inclusivity, and recognizes the diversity of fantasies, sexual expression and sexual behaviors that exist.
Introducing kink into someone's sex life or to the relationship(s) can feel awkward at first. A sex positive therapist can help curate conversation with
partner(s), provide appropriate education, and help to design a safety and boundary plan. The work promotes autonomy, sexual exploration, and consent. For those who are experienced with kink, it can help you take your play to deeper levels, and iron out any bumps along the way.
Therapy is not designed to fix problems, per se. Instead, the process isabout creating a revised blueprint for the relationship with the help of an
objective third party. In other words, in couples’ counseling, your background,
attachment style, history of trauma (if applicable), communication style, and
other individual factors may be addressed in service of mending the
relationship. Along with effective tools for communication, this can set
couples up for smoother sailing.
Couples’ counseling can be a greatresource for couples struggling with sex and intimacy. A Certified Sex
Therapist (CST), who is a member of the American Association for Sexuality
Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), can treat sex and intimacy
issues such as mismatched libidos, or a sexless marriage. A CST, whether they
are a Psychologist, Marriage and Family Therapist, or Clinical Social Worker,
can also help with performance anxiety, improving sexual communication and
boundaries, working through sexual trauma, expanding sexual landscapes, sensate
focus and increased sexual connection.
Couples’ sex therapy beginswith understanding your current relational and sexual goals, discussion of
relationship history, and establishment of goals. For instance, a Certified Sex
Therapist can help you dive deeper into areas of the relationship preventing
you from having the thriving sex life you desire.
Thoughts and feelings
Rumination: feeling like your mind can’t stop thinking about something but it doesn’t lead to you finding a solution
You can’t turn your mind off at night to sleep
Always thinking about what will go wrong
Excessive concerns about safety and control
Feeling weak and unable to cope
Feeling powerless to get out of the anxiety loop
Changes in the body
Behaviors
The International Association of Eating Disorders (IADEP) has establish credentialing in the treatment of eating disorders. I am a psychologists who have been awarded the Certified Eating Disorders Specialist distinction.
Contact:
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